The Energy of Language

Changing words and how we think about language is something I love to share.

I love to see what happens when we shift perspective through words and language.
It’s so magical and freeing somehow.

Here’s a little recently made transition in my language, and it has improved my view of the world dramatically.
Perhaps you’ll try it out just to see what happens? or maybe it’s just a good read? or maybe it will just rile you up?
Whatever happens, here goes.

I have let go of the word hope.

Yes, you read this right.

I am releasing the word hope from vocabulary.

Deep down it feels like an illusion; a mask we use when we don’t know how to respond in a situation, or what to say.
It’s not a shining light in the dark, or a beacon of light for me. Or even close to bringing a happy moment of surrender.
For me this word has always represented sitting in a dark closet in which the light doesn’t work. Paralyzing.

It feels energetically empty. Unengaging. Inactive. Listless.

It’s such a bleak word, reminiscent of a Thomas Hardy novel, filled with unreachable expectations for a particular outcome to happen.
Within these expectations, I have seen people become apathetic, unable to take action because they wish for something they perceive is beyond their reach.
Leaving them powerless.
Giving their power away.

There’s the key, disempowerment, giving away of power.

For the record, I’m a pretty optimistic person. Not bubbly, but happy and optimistic.
I’ve got my own shit going down in my life, but I understand I have a choice, and I perceive my life, and all it, pretty good.

I’m definitely pragmatic, but also have ideals from my heart for the world, humanity, and a choice to take the small step, like a smile during trying moment, to promote positive change to acceptance and feeling good in this moment, in my amazing body, on this incredible planet.
A word without energy doesn’t help.

So, the word hope is out.
I have replaced it with “I trust that you _______, may you feel _______, may you have ________, may you be __________” instead.

May you try this simple exercise and see what happens.

Sat Nam

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.


 

A Destressing Plan

I am inspired to write about this in part because of the extreme cold we just had in Chicago and how this affected my body, which in turn showed me deeply the ways I carry my stress emotionally. It showed me how it’s time to rethink my rituals and change things up a bit.

The cold also showed me how i am truly in charge of my emotional and mental stress.
Lately, when people find out what I do, they always ask me how to destress from this fast paced, pushing through like a bull, driven world, and information overload.

Perhaps beginning to understand that you do have control over how you feel physically, emotionally, and mentally will help you.

My empathy and sympathy and well-intended quick advice may not actually help you in the long run, but perhaps these tools will. Tools are always great!
And remember, they only work if you begin to use them, and make them feel more comfortable for you, and your lifestyle.
So - maybe a little bit of tweaking after you try them out is good too, because if they don’t vibe with you, you probably wont keep trying them. (That’s good old experience talking here…)

Here are some tools to try to reduce physical, emotional, and mental stress.

A. Reduce Physical Stress
Breathing is great.
Breathing is not meditation, it’s just plain old breathing.
Breathing with an object is even better!
Breathe while holding something in your hand. (a round object seems best)
Put your full attention on the object while you consciously breathe in and out. Use slow, focused breathing.
Start for a minute at a time and work up to 5 minutes.
You may be totally surprised , yes! totally surprised, by how much stress is relieved.

B. Reduce Emotional Stress
This is my biggie, and one, I inherently feel we all forget about.
Take responsibility for your stress. (yep - pure suckage here…)
No one else causes you stress. They never have, and never will.
We get stressed when someone does something we don’t like, and we react with a variation of fear
or anger, affecting our body and mind (my lesson form the ridiculous cold. It affected my body)
It’s an endless cycle.
So - start by taking responsibility for your REactions (repeated patterns of behavior), and then consciously
deciding to change them as you see them happening more and more often. Maybe you need to tell
someone “when you do ______ (fill in the blank), I experience _____ (fill in the blank)” to get the
proverbial ball rolling. This is the beginning of breaking the cycle!

C. Reduce Mental Stress
This begins by changing your expectations, of yourself, and of others.
Expectations are responses to negative events in the past, and projecting them into the future.
The bigger problem occurs when you dwell on negative expectations.
Ike (eekay) - the world is what you think it is. Negative expectations or positive expectations.
The choice is yours.

I realize this is tough stuff - taking responsibility. It sucks sometimes frankly.
But life is not about a filtered Instagram photo or Facebook profile. It’s life.
And if you don’t take some action to help yourself, nothing can change and let the good happen.

I’m totally in it with you.
Stick it out.
WE can do it!

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.


 

5 Steps to Living Intentionally

Living and being intentional is a big part of what I help people with. A tool I share to shift awareness and transform things.
You learn through your bodies sensations and listening deep within to your inner self.
It’s a process and a practice. Just like many things in life.

It’s the new year, so instead of the super masculine practice of making resolutions, how about setting a theme based intention for yourself for the year?
Somehow, for me, its a softer and gentler way of creating what I want in my life.
There seems to be less pushing and more receptivity.
I’m a woman, I create. (Taking action is part of this creating.)
If you identify as feminine in nature, you do too!

Let’s get started!

Setting an intention is the first step to creating, manifesting , something in your life.

If you’re like me, you know that we’re on this planet for a short time, so creating an intentional life seems important.

So, what exactly is intention? Intention is when you become clear about what you want to create in your life experience and how you want to show up in every moment.
It’s planting the seeds of consciousness so you can take action to flourish.

The thing is - listen up - you have to consciously marry your intentions with actions (large or small) if you want to create that experience in your life.
For me, small steps are the most profound and lasting. Little steps create a huge leaps without you even realizing it.

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With that in mind, here are 5 Steps to creating an intentional life.

1 Be sure your soul desires are in alignment with the core values of your true self.
- How do you wan to feel? Intentions set out of fear and dissatisfaction/unhappiness, societal standards, or running away from something are generally not in alignment with YOU - but from an outside source.
- Take action: Do some journaling - don’t hold back! Brain dump. Mind numb. Make your hand sore kind of journaling.

2 Now, figure out what what shifts and desires are coming from inside YOU.
- Take action: Go back and see your patterns. Choose things that light up your heart and soul and you’ll be more apt to accomplish them. Go for 2 or 3 core desires. (yep, I’m a Danielle Laporte fan :) )

3 Find your why!!!! Yeah baby, this is it…. a simplistic version of my soul crush Simon Sinek’s book of the same name.
- Take action: Take those 2 or 3 core desires and ask questions to dive into the core of “why”
For example: if one of your themes is around getting into good physical shape is it coming from outside reasons - are you doing it be seen and get more attention? Or are you doing it for inner reasons - because you know you feel stronger and sexier and healthier when you lose those extra pounds?
- Then ask which one of these feels better to you at a soul level? Make that decision. Whatever it is, it’s your personal soul choice. You know when you’re being honest with yourself. Whatever it is, it’s OKAY. I’m not judging you. We all live differently, right?

4 Set your intention
- Small action - write out your intention/theme with your why. The why serves as your guiding light as you keep moving forward towards your desire.
Studies also show that when you write something down, your brain responds better and you’re more apt to bring it into fruition.

5 How are you going to accomplish this?
- Action #1 - brain dump again. In keeping with our previous example of getting into good physical shape - Are you going to go to the gym more? Hire a nutrition coach? Go to meetups for support? Ask your friends to support your new lifestyle? Follow a super amazing amazing person on social media that vibes with you? Take some classes for yourself? Etc.
- Action #2 - set up a plan that you will follow and that makes you happy. If you’re happy with the plan, you will be accountable to it and it will seem easy.
For me, monthly goals are best. I can easily see my progress and celebrate when I accomplish something. Celebration is important!

Then, look at this intention every day. Get used to it. Say it out loud and do a little something towards manifesting it everyday. Some days, may be easier than others. It’s a practice.

Lastly, enjoy the process!

Big Love,
Lisa Kai

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.