Self-Care: More than the Body - it's about the Soul

Doing something for your soul is just as important as doing something for your physical body.

It's not about conforming to what society tells you to do in your time off or even what your family wants, but about investing in yourself.

What feeds YOU?!



Doing what you love to do to support your spirit is following your intuition to a place that may actually feel uncomfortable for you at first. Those self criticizing thoughts come through and you may even question if it was the right choice because it feels downright selfish, and, wrong.



I've watched people in my family do things solely for other people in their lives and observed how beyond those actions they looked downright miserable because they feel guilty about giving some solid pleasure to their lives through serious me-time.

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Me-time IS self-care.



This is so important, I'm going to say it again.



Me-time IS self-care.

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Me-time is about re-grouping and re-orienting to yourself in your life for you.

YOU ARE IMPORTANT.



Investing in yourself is an act of self-love. 

Self-love reverberates throughout your life into your family, friends, community, the world, and the universe.

When we invest in our lives from the heart and soul, we feel more abundance and thrive form a deeper place of being.


So, I'd love to know what you do that supports your spirit and feeds your life with more abundance.



Let me know below.

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.


 

Focusing on what we CAN do

I recently felt like everything around and within me was being turned inside out. Like I'd been living in the upside down (an alternate parallel universe that's like living in the shadow land.)

Chaos during shifts and changes on a personal level, professionally, and within my community all at once.

Sheesh - REALLY?!



Living in the air like a balloon instead of grounded as a human on the earth is disconcerting for a Capricorn like me, as I'm pretty sure it can be for you too at different times in life.



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How do we ground when the stars rock our boats (as this past astrological cycle did?)


How do we ground and reconnect to our inner selves when life feels like a carnival ride and we really want to check out or throw darts at everything triggering us instead of coming back to the well-adjusted people we are?

Man, I tell ya - sometimes the simple act of sipping a good beer flopped in a chair looking at the sky works - and sometimes - well, usually most times - it doesn't work that easily...

Most of us require a bit more to reboot and re-orient to life. (from losses and pretty amazing pull-throughs, to embracing the newness of who we are because of all we have experienced.)



How can this be accomplished?



By focusing on what we CAN do right now.

How do we do this, you ask?

I'm going to let you in on a little secret -
Alone time.

A mini break!

yep.

Savoring those times when you're alone to catch-up with yourself, and your surroundings in life so that you can allow everyone around you to catch up as well. (It's nice to be clear with those you love.)



I have a lot of little rituals I like to pick from.

My latest favorite has been re-orienting in the moment.
It's NOT an intellectual or methodical exercise but it IS a listening, feeling, and visualizing exercise.

It goes like this -

* Find a space where you can be alone; away from work colleagues, friends, family... (on your way to work is good too)
* Then - breath at your own pace with your eyes closed for a few breaths.
* Begin to open your eyes slowly looking at the space you're in right now. 
Let your eyes wander slowly all around until you focus on an object that pleases you in some way. Describe that visually and in sensate words, (warm/cold, vibrating/messy... - The white daisy in the vase makes me feel tingly, warm and giddy)

* Close your eyes again and allow 3 words to come to mind, just let them come and write them down. 
(Mine are Ease, Connection, and yellow.)

* Now, get up and walk around with these words in mind. This is a very important part of the exercise - Movement has been proven to clear energy and solidify new connections being made in the brain and body.


Come back to the space you needed a break from and act on these words.

How can you take action on these right now? In this moment?

Do you need to walk more slowly into your work space and savor that time? Do you need to pop your sweetie a text? Do you need to eat lunch outside on a bench?

Just do this one little thing for yourself and see how you feel afterward.

I'd love to know if this helps you to ground more to your inner self and works for you.

Please share your insights if you'd like to.

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.


 

Remembering to play and trust like a child

Lately, I’ve been playing with my niece and have noticed the energy she carries - of curiosity, presence, and playfulness - in exploring and being part of the world. Daring with a smile is what comes to me right now.

I feel this is the core essence in every human and sometimes, these fun feelings seem to get lost in the majority of us and replaced with “hows “shoulds” and “whys”.

This core essence is also taken over by overwhelm, frustration, wordy well-meaning teachers, parents, gurus, societal standards, and comparison to others.

Things get soooo darn serious as we become adults - learning becomes serious because play becomes serious; we HAVE TO WIN instead of playing to have fun and enjoy life.

We lose our glow :(

How do we get past our self-imposed limitations and learned fears in the world with the eyes and energy of a child?

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So how do we learn to play and explore again?
Here are some ideas:

*LET GO OF EXPECTATIONS: use your imagination to be willing to step beyond your boundaries. I can pretty much guarantee the outcome will be less embarrassing than falling in the snow on your butt at a busy intersection.

*BE CURIOUS: use your senses instead of your mind. Touch, smell, listen, and observe what’s going on in your immediate surroundings. If it freaks you out, breathe and see if anything changes. If not, ask why.

*MOVE: have fun in your environment. Flit around like a butterfly at a party you don’t know people, spin a circle, get dizzy. BE IN YOUR BODY INSTEAD OF YOUR HEAD.

*LAUGH MORE: don’t just text LOL - but laugh out loud on the train AS you text it! Laugh until your abs hurt. :)

Sometimes we don't feel ready to do something new, but it’s the only choice we have to glow and flow.

Remembering to explore the world like a child while consciously in our bodies will help us have fun in the process!

So finally - what’s a commitment you can make this week to nurture your playful curiosity of life that you’re a vital part of?

I’d love to know...

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.