Focusing on what we CAN do

I recently felt like everything around and within me was being turned inside out. Like I'd been living in the upside down (an alternate parallel universe that's like living in the shadow land.)

Chaos during shifts and changes on a personal level, professionally, and within my community all at once.

Sheesh - REALLY?!

Living in the air like a balloon instead of grounded as a human on the earth is disconcerting for a Capricorn like me, as I'm pretty sure it can be for you too at different times in life.


How do we ground when the stars rock our boats (as this past astrological cycle did?)

How do we ground and reconnect to our inner selves when life feels like a carnival ride and we really want to check out or throw darts at everything triggering us instead of coming back to the well-adjusted people we are?

Man, I tell ya - sometimes the simple act of sipping a good beer flopped in a chair looking at the sky works - and sometimes - well, usually most times - it doesn't work that easily...

Most of us require a bit more to reboot and re-orient to life. (from losses and pretty amazing pull-throughs, to embracing the newness of who we are because of all we have experienced.)

How can this be accomplished?

By focusing on what we CAN do right now.

How do we do this, you ask?

I'm going to let you in on a little secret -
Alone time.

A mini break!


Savoring those times when you're alone to catch-up with yourself, and your surroundings in life so that you can allow everyone around you to catch up as well. (It's nice to be clear with those you love.)

I have a lot of little rituals I like to pick from.

My latest favorite has been re-orienting in the moment.
It's NOT an intellectual or methodical exercise but it IS a listening, feeling, and visualizing exercise.

It goes like this -

* Find a space where you can be alone; away from work colleagues, friends, family... (on your way to work is good too)
* Then - breath at your own pace with your eyes closed for a few breaths.
* Begin to open your eyes slowly looking at the space you're in right now. 
Let your eyes wander slowly all around until you focus on an object that pleases you in some way. Describe that visually and in sensate words, (warm/cold, vibrating/messy... - The white daisy in the vase makes me feel tingly, warm and giddy)

* Close your eyes again and allow 3 words to come to mind, just let them come and write them down. 
(Mine are Ease, Connection, and yellow.)

* Now, get up and walk around with these words in mind. This is a very important part of the exercise - Movement has been proven to clear energy and solidify new connections being made in the brain and body.

Come back to the space you needed a break from and act on these words.

How can you take action on these right now? In this moment?

Do you need to walk more slowly into your work space and savor that time? Do you need to pop your sweetie a text? Do you need to eat lunch outside on a bench?

Just do this one little thing for yourself and see how you feel afterward.

I'd love to know if this helps you to ground more to your inner self and works for you.

Please share your insights if you'd like to.


Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.