Focusing on what we CAN do

I recently felt like everything around and within me was being turned inside out. Like I'd been living in the upside down (an alternate parallel universe that's like living in the shadow land.)

Chaos during shifts and changes on a personal level, professionally, and within my community all at once.

Sheesh - REALLY?!



Living in the air like a balloon instead of grounded as a human on the earth is disconcerting for a Capricorn like me, as I'm pretty sure it can be for you too at different times in life.



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How do we ground when the stars rock our boats (as this past astrological cycle did?)


How do we ground and reconnect to our inner selves when life feels like a carnival ride and we really want to check out or throw darts at everything triggering us instead of coming back to the well-adjusted people we are?

Man, I tell ya - sometimes the simple act of sipping a good beer flopped in a chair looking at the sky works - and sometimes - well, usually most times - it doesn't work that easily...

Most of us require a bit more to reboot and re-orient to life. (from losses and pretty amazing pull-throughs, to embracing the newness of who we are because of all we have experienced.)



How can this be accomplished?



By focusing on what we CAN do right now.

How do we do this, you ask?

I'm going to let you in on a little secret -
Alone time.

A mini break!

yep.

Savoring those times when you're alone to catch-up with yourself, and your surroundings in life so that you can allow everyone around you to catch up as well. (It's nice to be clear with those you love.)



I have a lot of little rituals I like to pick from.

My latest favorite has been re-orienting in the moment.
It's NOT an intellectual or methodical exercise but it IS a listening, feeling, and visualizing exercise.

It goes like this -

* Find a space where you can be alone; away from work colleagues, friends, family... (on your way to work is good too)
* Then - breath at your own pace with your eyes closed for a few breaths.
* Begin to open your eyes slowly looking at the space you're in right now. 
Let your eyes wander slowly all around until you focus on an object that pleases you in some way. Describe that visually and in sensate words, (warm/cold, vibrating/messy... - The white daisy in the vase makes me feel tingly, warm and giddy)

* Close your eyes again and allow 3 words to come to mind, just let them come and write them down. 
(Mine are Ease, Connection, and yellow.)

* Now, get up and walk around with these words in mind. This is a very important part of the exercise - Movement has been proven to clear energy and solidify new connections being made in the brain and body.


Come back to the space you needed a break from and act on these words.

How can you take action on these right now? In this moment?

Do you need to walk more slowly into your work space and savor that time? Do you need to pop your sweetie a text? Do you need to eat lunch outside on a bench?

Just do this one little thing for yourself and see how you feel afterward.

I'd love to know if this helps you to ground more to your inner self and works for you.

Please share your insights if you'd like to.

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.


 

Remembering to play and trust like a child

Lately, I’ve been playing with my niece and have noticed the energy she carries - of curiosity, presence, and playfulness - in exploring and being part of the world. Daring with a smile is what comes to me right now.

I feel this is the core essence in every human and sometimes, these fun feelings seem to get lost in the majority of us and replaced with “hows “shoulds” and “whys”.

This core essence is also taken over by overwhelm, frustration, wordy well-meaning teachers, parents, gurus, societal standards, and comparison to others.

Things get soooo darn serious as we become adults - learning becomes serious because play becomes serious; we HAVE TO WIN instead of playing to have fun and enjoy life.

We lose our glow :(

How do we get past our self-imposed limitations and learned fears in the world with the eyes and energy of a child?

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So how do we learn to play and explore again?
Here are some ideas:

*LET GO OF EXPECTATIONS: use your imagination to be willing to step beyond your boundaries. I can pretty much guarantee the outcome will be less embarrassing than falling in the snow on your butt at a busy intersection.

*BE CURIOUS: use your senses instead of your mind. Touch, smell, listen, and observe what’s going on in your immediate surroundings. If it freaks you out, breathe and see if anything changes. If not, ask why.

*MOVE: have fun in your environment. Flit around like a butterfly at a party you don’t know people, spin a circle, get dizzy. BE IN YOUR BODY INSTEAD OF YOUR HEAD.

*LAUGH MORE: don’t just text LOL - but laugh out loud on the train AS you text it! Laugh until your abs hurt. :)

Sometimes we don't feel ready to do something new, but it’s the only choice we have to glow and flow.

Remembering to explore the world like a child while consciously in our bodies will help us have fun in the process!

So finally - what’s a commitment you can make this week to nurture your playful curiosity of life that you’re a vital part of?

I’d love to know...

 

Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.


 

Dancing as a Mini Self-Discovery Tool

What is this all about you ask? This staying solidly connected to your inner self?

Let’s see. Well - ultimately it’s a deep curiosity to understand and balance the science of OUR uniquely individual and magical inner alchemy of the body, mind, and spirit.
It’s introspection and feeling into the body’s energy to help guide your decisions and what feels empowering and in-tune with you, instead of what what makes you exhausted and overwhelmed.

It’s what we like to innately do as humans. Balance and attune ourselves. We LOVE to explore and expand. Especially through play!

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Do you feel you’re not always connected fully to that innate intelligence?
You are not alone.
Do you want a tool to keep you EVEN MORE in-tune with that voice of wisdom?
Of course you do - because you’re YOU.

So, come on and check this out!

It’s fun, and super connecting - plus, you get a little mini workout too :)

Please remember - this not a test. There is no right or wrong and definitely no pass or fail. Just some playFULL fun.

I call this little dance of curiosity “The JAM and Stop”

1. put your ipod or spotify or whatever you use on random. Hit play and dance for 2 or 3 songs. (about 10 min) Dance the way the song makes you feel inside. Slow, jumping all around, smooth groovin’ - whatever feels good to your body.

2. After a few songs - STOP dancing, and STAND STILL for a few minutes.
Tap into your body; Feel everything you feel; physical, emotional, nothing at all.
Whatever it is.

3. Now, sit and write in a journal or on your computer any observations.
Eg: my knees weren’t happy... I didn’t feel anything... I feel all tingly, shaking, numb - Whatever. Does any of this relate to any part of your life in particular?
Write that down, and when you have some time, reflect on it. How it makes your body and energy feel and how that may effect your life.

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Cool beans -we’re done! Fun and simple.

May you use this tool whenever you want and enjoy it’s benefits.


Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.