Surrender to life - so, this is it! It has taken me almost 40 years to get to this point. Somewhere along the line, in grade school, I lost this ability to surrender to what is.
Perhaps it was the socialization and how we should all be, what we should all be doing, how our lives were supposed to be like a cookie cutter. (Another Pleasant Valley Sunday?)
Each person being the same and living the same and being a strange robotic culture like in The Stepford Wives. (""""shiver"""")
I became a "rebel" if you want to label me - out of hormones, frustration, and the inability to find the right words to describe how I felt - a punk rocker with a taste for Rockabilly, musicians/artists, and a very outlandish, against the grain of life persona. I couldn't bring myself to surrender to this strange disconcerting view of life.
Now, with some wisdom and experience, I am able to see more clearly what happens in that socialized world we are subjected to early in life.
And how we all carry a bit of this into adulthood. Blech - good grief!
"We all have grandiose ideas of how life SHOULD BE, and thus the "suffering" of comparing ourselves and lives to others with self-judgement. Comparing ourselves to others, our minds become our worst enemies, and can ultimately separate us from the interconnectedness of life.
I now realize that this is my life. Nothing grandiose, super exciting, or exotic about it. I see that everyone I come in contact with, work with, and befriend deserves my attention and love and respect and admiration for just being in my life, touching it some way, and allowing me to be in theirs. In this moment.
It is healing and beautiful, this heart space."
Challenging at times, but beautiful and I feel more connected to the web of life in many ways as I sink deeper into this space of THIS IS IT!
Yes, there are disappointments, but again, I come back to the mind/ego and see comparisons that raise expectations and cause the discomfort, and the circle goes on and on... repeating itself until I go crazy.
So my new mantra is "Surrender to life just as it is, in this moment." Embodying my practice of the deeper essence of Aloha - to love is to be happy with.
Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.