Building up Trust in Yourself

How about this?
Not building trust in the workplace, or within a relationship with another human, but building up trust in yourself.

Energetically, this season is about the grayness, the murkiness that is so prevalent before the Spring emergence in nature and in our lives.

Energetically, personal trust in ourselves is all about emergence from a gray, uncomfortable place.

This relationship to inner trust is everywhere - from myself to my clients. Lack of personal trust is HUGE. This feeling surfaces when we are beginning something new in our lives. Most of us tend to push it sown, or dissociate from it,; labeling it as inconsequential, silly, or it will pass.

Women in particular are plagued with personal distrust. I know you men out there can be plagued by this, and are at times, but mainly, this is a female plague.

Women are taught to compare instead of working together while acknowledging our differences. We’re taught to take a back seat and trust that someone else will take care of things, or that someone else’s ideas, decisions, or way of doing things are the best and only way.

How do we shift this?
What do we need to do to trust ourselves, our inner knowing (gut instinct/spidey sense), so that it illuminates all we do in our lives from the inside out?

I don’t have all the answers, but I do have some tools I can share that I see working for myself, friends, and clients. May they resonate with you in some way :)

* Let go of people who don’t support your well-being, or challenge you to move through your uncomfortableness with love and compassion.
This one sucks and hurts, but life is brighter without sticky cords holding you in place.
We all need people who are going to witness us, hear us, give advice if asked for, help us to grow, move
forward, and support us just as we are.

* Spend some time with yourself.
How can you be authentically YOU, and hear your true self without doing this? Learn what you like and
what makes your skin crawl - and why! Knowing yourself and your values will help you make decisions with
more clarity. Which is also VERY empowering!

* Practice self kindness as a form of self care.
Be your own cheerleader consistently. - Especially when you didn’t accomplish everything you set out to do
or when things didn’t go according to your plan.
That negative talk in our heads is not our friend. Especially not one we want to have around us.

Celebrate what has happened and what you have accomplished. This is self love at its highest vibration.

We are who we are. Inn re connection and self kindness are a part of our intuitive alchemy; that sense of who
we are and where we come from.
That is building trust in ourselves!

Let me know what you think below this post. I’d love to hear what you have to say.


Lisa Kai is a licensed bodywork therapist in Chicago Illinois. She specializes in transformational bodywork including Lomi Lomi and Visionary Craniosacral. This blog contains her insights on bodywork and everyday tips for practicing Aloha for the body, mind, and spirit. Lisa also practices Aloha, is a nature loving tikiphile, digs jazz (well, all types of music really!), double dips her veggies, is an artist, and embraces change.